This entry was sparked by one of my best friends after we exchanged a few texts this morning. She was complaining of stomach aches, fatigue and digestion issues and had to call off of work. We spoke for a little and she thought it had to do with anxiety and stress, which without giving away too much information, she and I believe stems from her job.
We all find ourselves one way or another having to make major changes in our lives and this can be on a weekly, monthly, and/or yearly basis. What we do better than making changes is excuses as to why we haven’t done anything yet. For example, if you’re not happy in your job or career, you do have the power to change. However, for most of us quitting a job and starting over is absolutely NOT as easy as it sounds. Finances typically are a big factor that cause most people to not want to jump out of a job. Maybe it’ll add more stress to a relationship or not having a backup plan. Whatever the excuse is, even if it’s very valid, it’s still an excuse.
What do I know about making big changes at only 27? Well maybe not as much as you, but I certainly had to make huge changes in the last few years that ARE NOT easy. I decided to quit cocaine, I cut out a LOT of people who I thought were my friends for most of my short time on this planet thus far, I deleted social media accounts, oh- I also chose to move with my husband over 2,000 miles away from where I grew up which held everything and everyone I knew. I CHOSE these things, even down to moving to Las Vegas. My husband, who is my rock, told me that if I didn’t want to move away he wouldn’t. The story of how I ended up in Las Vegas is for another time, but you get my point.
What I’m trying to say is we have the power to change pretty much everything in our lives. We have the power to change our attitude, we have the power to change our situations and we can change a lot of what we see. I’m not saying that the world isn’t full of broken dreams and negativity but there’s a fuck ton of good shit out there, too. It’s simply up to you to change your mindset. Start framing it little by little by making small changes first. That’s a good point- DO NOT TRY TO CHANGE EVERYTHING AT ONCE. You won’t last, I can promise you that.
A lot of what I write in this blog will shock some of my family members who didn’t know I was addicted to cocaine for I don’t know three years, or wasn’t loyal to my fiancé during that time. It probably will spark a gossip-mill of bullshit but I’m okay with that. Why? Because I listened to myself first, made changes I wanted to make and now am feeling and looking the best I ever have. I’m in a place where it’s okay to share these things about my past because it’s in THE PAST. I listened to my body, I was tired and depressed and miserable in a lot of ways that some of you may never relate to, some might. But the point is all the answers were basically right under my nose. I knew for a long time I wanted to change before I actually had the courage TO CHANGE.
Whatever might be holding you back from taking a leap of faith, I hope you find a way to overcome it. I hope that you can find little ways to make your life better like I did. I’m not therapist, I’m not a licensed psychologist, but I don’t need to be any of these things to remind you that YOU have the power. If this entry provided you with a little courage, then my job is done for the day. I believe in you, even if I don’t know you. I always will have faith in people, even the people that abused my kind heart over the years, but shit I can even thank all those assholes because they’re the reason I am who I am today. They’re mostly called lessons now in my eyes, but you get the point.
You have a reason, everything happens FOR a reason, and just keep chugging away. Care less about the little things and more about things that actually matter to you. Don’t pinch the fat on your stomach and compare yourself to the photoshopped model on instagram or on the cover of a magazine. Just get up and go workout if you feel like you’re not happy with how you look. I’m a realist, I’m not saying you’re ever going to be perfect. But remember, this is progress not perfection!